Have you ever looked back on a failed relationship, trying to figure out what went wrong, realizing that it never went wrong, it was wrong from the beginning, but you were so “in love” that you ignored the signs or didn’t see them at all? I’ve looked back at my relationships and examined the months, even years, and realized that there were so many signs. There were so many times when God tried to warn me that I was going in the wrong direction. I was moving away from Him, away from His plan for me. I was getting involved with people who would distract me and draw me away from Him. I was so lovesick that I ignored what the Spirit was trying to tell me. In this book, I will share with you what I have learned so you will not make the same mistakes. This book is not a how-to book on getting a mate. This book is not about the steps you need to take so by the end of the year you will be happily married; this book is about who you are, who God wants you to be, where you're going, and the relationships that you would like to create. What you will learn in this book, you can use to make better decisions about any relationship in your life, not just about who you want to date and/or marry. Again, it’s not about having a relationship, but having the right relationships in your life. My goal is to help you acknowledge the dating mistakes you may have made in your past, to let you in on some of my own, and to direct you to dating the right way. There may be parts of this book that may not pertain to your life or your past experiences, and that’s ok. I pray God will speak to an area of your life or enlighten you as you read this book.

I wrote this book to help:

● Those who have been in a relationship with the wrong person and have experienced pain and trauma.

● Identify if you are currently in the wrong relationship.

● Those who want to date or are dating to be married.

● Those who want to learn a better way to Christian dating.

As you will see in chapter one, “Take Responsibility”, we start here because if we can be truthful with ourselves, we can admit that we have made some bad decisions when it comes to choosing a person to date. Taking responsibility is the very first step that you can take to make sure that you do not repeat the mistakes and the bad decisions of your past. It is true that we have had people in our lives who have caused us much pain, and for their actions, we do not have to take responsibility, nor are we the reason for their actions. We only need to take responsibility for ourselves. If we blame others for the bad decisions we have made and do not take responsibility for them, we set ourselves up to go through it all over again, but we’ll talk about it more in chapter one. I know that a lot of us have entered into relationships, then slowly we start to lose our focus on God, and our personal relationship with Him suffered, and we dealt with much pain because we didn’t listen to His voice. I remember thinking to myself, if I would have just done what I knew was right, and just followed the Word of God, I would have avoided so much pain. If I would have done the right thing, I would have kept the wrong people from having access to my life and delaying the will of God for me. It took 24 years for me to learn what I’m pouring into this book. My hope as you read this book is that God will give you revelation of the things that you didn’t see before and that you will gain wisdom. I pray this book will help you create wonderful relationships with people who will treat you the way God’s son and daughters should be treated. I pray that you will be wise to the enemy's tactics and not let anything come between you, God, and His will.